This isn’t a preachy post. I don’t care if you circumcised your son or not. I don’t believe it’s genital mutilation. For some time, it was an extremely common practice for newborn boys. His little guy works just as well either way.
We planned on circumcising our son. In fact, I was at the appointment.
In the waiting room the doctor explained to me how to care for and what to expect for healing.
She described the contraption he would be in, which led to her reasons for not allowing parents in the room.
Moms tend to have a hard time seeing their baby’s little arms and legs being strapped down on an oddly shaped table.
Dads tend to faint at the sight of blood on a penis.
So, no parents in the room.
While I was in the waiting room, the doctor (not his regular pediatritian, she doesn’t do circumcisions-go figure!), came out to talk to me.
She had to take me to my little guy and show me something. (Lucky me I got to see my little love strapped down. Awesome!)
Basically, she couldn’t “operate” because if she did, his penis would “disappear,” or retract. (It was over a year ago, I’m a little fuzzy on the technical terms.)
She reassured us many times that everything is normal, we just may have to wait a year to follow through with the circumcision.
She suggested we take him to a specialist to see what they would recommend.
Within a week, we found ourselves at another doctors appointment in a different city. The specialist agreed with the pediatrician and said we would have to wait until he was a year old.
Because they can’t use anesthesia on an infant.
Well, in my little mommy world, you can’t use anesthesia on my child, period.
Unless ABSOLUTELY necessary.
And a circumcision just isn’t. It is not medically necessary. Insurance doesn’t cover it for a reason.
Honestly, I’m actually glad it didn’t work out.
However, if it went the way we planned and he was circumcised, fine. I am not ashamed of our original decision.
Will he be embarrassed by it one day? Maybe. No more than anybody else is about any number of body parts. We’ll have that talk with him when the time is right.
Will he be horrified one day knowing I wrote this post and that it’s “out there?” Possibly. But more likely, he’ll never know it exists.I feel as if circumcision is quickly approaching as a front runner of the (never ending) “mommy wars.” So, if I’ve offended you with this post, I apologize. These are my views based solely on my personal experiences as a mom. I’m glad it happened the way it did. But I promise, I won’t judge you on your decision for your son. Because he’s YOUR baby, and you decide what’s right for him for now.
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