One of the wonders of being a parent is watching personalities develop. Our two kids could not be more different.
My daughter has been stubborn since the day she was born. She put me through 22 hours of labor only to end in a cesarean because the cord was wrapped around her neck (I know, likely not her fault).
She went on a nursing strike at two and a half months old. What baby does that?
She knew what she wanted and she was/is dead set on getting it how she wants it.
My son on the other hand, came out smiling with a VBAC.
At 15 months old, he’s showing no signs of wanting to stop nursing, (mama’s gonna have to put the halt on that one very soon!)
We tried the CIO method with both kids.
For the girl, it worked out great!
Not so much for the boy.
A little known option for the “cry it out” method, if it doesn’t work, stop doing it. It gets such a bad rap because of the crazy extremists out there. Whatever, my point isn’t to defend our CIO trial and errors.
Take them out in public, their differences are fascinating!
Ever since Z was born she would turn away from people. To this day, she will not speak in front of you unless she’s been around you for awhile.
For our ENTIRE vacation, the only time she spoke was when it was just our little family in our hotel room. She didn’t even talk to her Aunt Carol whom she is usually quite comfortable around.
When we go on play dates, it takes awhile for her to warm up to the friend, (whether they’re old or new).
It takes several play dates for her to warm up to the friend’s parent. And I’m happy to say that after two and a half years worth of play dates, Miss Z was insanely chatty with her friend yesterday, in front of her friend’s mom! Crazy, I know!
When we go to the zoo or aquarium or something most kids happily exclaim about, the little miss “shuts down.”
(This was taken right before she met Peppa.)
Or does she?
She looks mad. Doesn’t talk out of her own free will, and gives short answers when spoken to-if we’re lucky.
Some would say she’s being a little B word, because of the way she’s coming across.
(I mean “Brat!” That’s my kid we’re talking about!)
(This is her really excited face while in public.)
But she’s not. She’s observing. Everything. And I will be damned if she doesn’t stop talking about whatever it was we were doing once we get home…and the next day…and the next.
The baby is happy and chatty all the freaking time!When we leave family or friends they’re saying can I have a hug? Or a kiss? How about a high five? All the while Z is hiding her face in my shoulder. And R is practicing his beauty pageant wave and kisses.
So when you’re saying good bye to an adorable kiddo you thought you were good with, and they suddenly pretend they don’t know you, it’s nothing personal.
They may just be waiting until they get into the car so they can tell their parents how awesome you are.
So you could say Z is the introvert, (like daddy), and R is the extrovert, (like mama). Which is great! That’s how we learn from each other, and keep a form of balance in our family. I wouldn’t have it any other way!
How are your kids’ personalities? Are they different? Or are they always thinking alike?