Sorry Number Two

I used to give my parents a hard time for not having any baby pictures of me. I am the youngest of three and there were none to be found (okay, there is ONE-but my mom had to really search for it.)IMG_0744.JPG

“Just you wait!” they would say. “When you have a another baby, you won’t even think about taking pictures.”

Luckily now a days, everyone has a camera on their phone. So we certainly have plenty of pictures of our second born…we just don’t have many on the wall.

That’s not the only thing baby number two got screwed on.

This is my list of how things changed with our second child:

1. Professional Photos.

My dad is a photographer that specializes in families, high school seniors, and babies. So getting baby into his studio for pics should be a given.

For the girl, we had a photo session every three months until she was a year old.

For my son, we skipped his three month session…and at 14 months, we have yet to do his year.

2. Baby book.

My daughter’s book is filled out on every single page. Every minute detail of each new thing she “accomplished” is in that book. Along with several photographs organized by month.IMG_0753.JPG My son’s book is empty. Well, that’s not entirely true, his full name is written on the first page.IMG_0754.JPGWhen did he first hold his head up? Not sure.IMG_0752.JPGWhat was his favorite food at six months? No idea.IMG_5063.JPGWhat day did he start walking? Somewhere around his first birthday?…IMG_0603.JPG3. Dirty pacifiers.

With our first, if the binky got even close to something dirty, we would rush off to clean it.

With baby number two, well, the ten second rule is a thing, right?

This goes for pretty much anything too, his binky, a toy, his spoon…IMG_5793.JPG4. Hand Me Downs.

We got a ton of stuff when I was pregnant with my daughter. Some of the major players, “exersaucer,” bibs, and blankets are all of a feminine persuasion.

Sorry son, for now, pink is your favorite color. Cool?IMG_9748.JPG5. Injuries.

My daughter didn’t get an injury involving blood until well after her second birthday.

As times have changed and our “hovering” parenting style has changed, my son has gotten the brunt of it. Whether he was learning to crawl, walk, or just try to play with his big sis, he has seen his share of bumps, bruises, and scratches.IMG_0750.JPGIt’s all part if their learning right? He figured out a lot faster than my daughter did that it’s a bad idea to close a drawer on your fingers…

Being the second child definitely has a few downsides, but a major upside for our son, is he gets more relaxed parents. We don’t freak out at every tiny move he makes, we encourage it. Our daughter has taught us to “loosen the reigns,” if you will, and to let our children gain their independence at an early age. IMG_0410.JPGHow has your parenting style changed since having a second child?

18 thoughts on “Sorry Number Two

  1. andthreetogo says:

    I hear this from many moms with more than one child. With each child one gets a little more relaxed. I could definitely tell, being the oldest of four children, that the rules changed as each kid was born. 🙂 Z will be our only one most likely, so I have tried to teach her to be independent by not hovering throughout her life. But I have done it many times regardless and her dad… Well is is the helicopter parent poster child. Haha

  2. melissajane01 says:

    Yes I completely agree with everything. My son’s first year book is about halfway full. I tried to write down some of the words he was saying at a year, but it was written on a piece of lined paper and then just thrown into the book.

  3. Ai says:

    All so true in our family! And it got progressively worse for the 3rd child. And for the 4th child, it’s a wonder we even remember his name! I actually felt bad not having any of my younger kids’ pictures in albums, so I made it my summer goal to complete one baby photobook for each neglected child. Just got the last of the photobooks in the mail last week. Yay!

  4. Melissande says:

    Oh my goodness – YES! But, I don’t even have a baby book for my first kid! Haha! Can you imagine how my fourth is doing? That’s probably why oldest kids are so uptight – and I can say this because I am an oldest. Great post!

    • mamabyfire says:

      Me too. When my daughter was born, we were snapping photos like crazy. And printing our favorites. And even before my son was born, we had eased off a lot with the picture taking.

  5. Mommy A to Z says:

    We’re more relaxed, to put it mildly 🙂 My daughter fell off the bed, I called the doc and had my mom rush over. My son fell off the couch…well, he seemed OK, so everything was fine. Sigh.

  6. Lauren says:

    This is so true! I was thinking of doing a post like this, but I have seen a few really good ones lately (yours included) so i think I may just leave it be! 😉

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